I’m on Pacific time right now, as I’m in Vegas on a work trip. My room has automatic shades, a red leather couch, a black toilet, and a kick-ass view. Vegas is the best-worst place ever.
In today’s blog, I’m adapting an exercise I learned from a personal retreat I attended a few days ago in San Diego.
Think about an area of your life that not going the way you want it to go. Maybe you feel frustrated, anxious, embarrassed, angry, scared, or sad about it. When you think about that area and the emotions it triggers in you, what questions do you find yourself asking?
For example, maybe if you’re feeling really chaotic around money, you’re asking yourself, Why can’t I just have more money like my friends? Why am I so poor? Why didn’t I pick a better career?
Or if romantic relationships are tripping you up, you might be asking yourself: What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just be normal in relationships? Why do I attract losers and my friends have great relationships?
Think about your area of life, then make a list of those questions that come up for you when you think about it.
Now I have a question for you. Are those questions really helping your current situation? Are those questions helping you move towards what you want? Do they make you feel excited and motivated to accomplish your goals and get what you want?
That means you have to change the questions you’re asking yourself. Empowering and motivating questions include:
How have I grown in this area of my life? What can I do right now to feel more positive about this area? How can I work on myself now so that I’m the best romantic partner I can be when I meet the person of my dreams? How can I turn my skills and passions into a profitable side hustle? How can I live like I already have the money/career/romantic relationship/health of my dreams?
Notice how these questions make you feel, compared to the previous questions. These questions probably make you feel much more calm, empowered, and motivated, right? When you shift into asking yourself these questions, you put yourself into action quickly, and then you’re on your way to feeling better and accomplishing all of your goals.
Give this exercise a try and experience the shifts!